It took me a few days to become a smoker, and a few weeks to get to the point of not wanting to smoke again (some decades later).
It took me a week or so to start having a healthier breakfast and it become part of my routine, and I've been trying to have healthier lunches for years now (and still regularly fail, normally because at lunchtimes I'm tired, stressed and yearning for comfort foods like sandwiches and snack bars).
I think anyone who believed exactly 21 days was the magic number for all habits, for all people, was grossly naive.
But what I do find is that after 21 days it's no longer novel, it's just what you do, if somebody asks you what you do about X, you no longer say "I'm trying this new thing around X, and...", you tell them your new habit. Identifying that habit as part of who you are is key to it being sticky. For some people, and for some habits, that might be true after a week, or it might take a year, but it's an important step, and if you want that habit to stick you should get to it as fast as you can.
Jan 1, 2024, I made a resolution to change my diet (basically small, very simple meals with one cheat meal a week). I'd probably made a dozen such resolutions before without much success, but for some reason this one stuck right away. I never even had trouble sticking with it, and lost a pound a week over the next 10 months. Then I met my girlfriend and we went out to eat a lot, and that broke the habit. It seems like big life changes can reset habits.
I wish I knew how I did it, because I've been unable to regain that same "this is just what I do now and it's fine" level of acceptance that seemed to be the key.
> I wish I knew how I did it, because I've been unable to regain that same "this is just what I do now and it's fine" level of acceptance that seemed to be the key.
Sometimes it’s as simple as “doesn’t hurt enough yet”
My grandpa was a liter of wine per day (or more) kinda guy. Then he hit his 70’s and it didn’t feel good anymore. So he stopped and hasn’t had a glass of alcohol since. Just doesn’t feel like it. Even when others drink around him.
There are different kinds of dependencies; the human brain needs nicotine to function properly, more than you get from modern food. Not recommending tobacco, nor big pharma crap, there are supplements.
Yeah, it's weird. I'm actually a much nicer person on nicotine than I ever was before I got addicted. It makes it really hard to quit, because even after a few weeks, while I don't feel miserable anymore, I do miss the person I was on nicotine.
Not comparable depending on how you deliver it, but this is how I head a couple alcoholists describe it when they stop drinking. They miss the feeling and constantly feel that their new self is not worth as much (because of X).
- Vaping damages lungs (more research needed on other possible conditions).
- Nicotine pouches damage teeth.
I suppose the healthiest way of ingesting nicotine would be nicotine pills, which exist to help people quit smoking (and which is why they are very expensive).
I forget what book it was, it might have been the happiness trap, but a big point they made was that building new habits and changing your life has a lot more to do with your inner notion of identity and long-run values. It's much easier to change your habits when they align with who you believe you are, The mental model difference between "I'm trying to eat healthier," and "I am a healthy eater."
> a few weeks to get to the point of not wanting to smoke again
That's a shockingly short amount of time for smoking. For me, after a few weeks I'd say some of the worst cravings had passed. But for a good year or two afterwards they'd occasionally come back, albeit briefly. I quit about 15 years ago, but given the right situation I can still feel it.
I didn't actively fight it. What I did instead was note in my own head that I somehow wanted a cigarette and think to myself "OK, if I still want one in 20 minutes, I'll have one", and then went and did something else instead. An hour or two later I'd think "Oh yeah, that was weird, didn't I want a cigarette a while back?"
Very occasionally it comes back - a sunny day and a beer garden with a few pints and a pack of cigs feels like something I'd very much enjoy, for example - but it's brief and I can quickly rationalise it: "how strange a thought, for a non-smoker".
>but it's brief and I can quickly rationalise it: "how strange a thought, for a non-smoker".
i really love how you pose that. thank you for sharing, i'm going to come back to this post for inspiration. i personally get a lot of mileage out of the "lets see if i still care about this in 20 minutes" strategy for other things like food or a screen-related impulse.
But then again, 21 days might be an optimistic number solely for the purpose of getting people started. Now we should do a study of how many people, armed with this belief, still managed to keep their habit after 21 days.
> Now we should do a study of how many people, armed with this belief, still managed to keep their habit after 21 days.
Or perhaps better still, how many people didn't give up during the first or second week, since they now expect it to take 3 weeks.
(And similarly, whether there's a statistically significant number of people who give up ay 22+delta days now assuming they'd made it to 21 days and if the habit isn't formed then they've failed.)
> Identifying that habit as part of who you are is key to it being sticky.
This has always been key to me. I've succeeded to identify myself as a runner, as someone who speaks French, as someone who reads books. But my identification as someone who has meaningful programming side-project, who has a garden and so on is to weak to succeed.
I've found that habits tied to emotion (like seeking comfort or relief) are always the hardest to rewire. It's not about willpower, it's about replacing the feeling you're chasing with something that actually works long-term.
> I never really learned what is considered a healthy breakfast.
one of the big problems in the standard american diet is that we treat breakfast like a dessert.
1. cereal has around 15-30 grams of sugar in addition to various artificial flavors and additives.
2. pancakes and waffles? an irresponsible carb bomb that you douse in syrup and whipped cream.
3. breakfast sausage is basicly low quality meat mixed with fat. at least by itself its not high in sugar but then people normally have it with pancakes.
4. granola? na, more sugar.
Reality is that almost all "breakfast foods" are junk.
my advice is to steak to black coffee and a slice of fish or steak for most people. I like to have black coffee and sardines. seems to keep my mood stable througout the day.
Mine is a bowl of old fashion oats, frozen mixed fruit (I like a blueberry/blackberry mix), and maybe some non-fat plain greek yogurt and/or a glass a of plain soy milk.
Alternatively, a couple of scrambled eggs with a piece of toast and a bananna is fairly healthy.
A fried egg on an English muffin also isn't a terrible way to start the day.
Target ~400 cals, Try and get some protein and fiber in there. Watch out for saturated fats and high sodium (see the DASH diet for tips). If you are diabetic or risk diabetes, check out the glycemic index and shoot for low GI foods.
That'd be my advice (I'm not a doctor, what I'm suggesting could be 1000% wrong.)
I used a CGM recently. I tried breakfast as oatmeal with blueberries and mixed in with peanut butter. It spikes my blood sugar outside the "normal range". I treat oatmeal as once a week treat to avoid food boredom.
The oatmeal was a "big bowl" variety from a packet. I heard rolled oats might be better but it's a hassle to cook.
Most days breakfast is scrambled eggs (3 eggs), spinach, cheese. Sometimes I add tuna or avocado for variety. That keeps things stable.
Yeah that tracks. In the mornings your body is still in sleep mode so carb intake will take longer to be absorbed. If you have diabetes you need more insulin and a longer time for it to have affect. So for sure eating slow release carbs will help with the peak. Eating fats like cheese/avocado/oil will dampen the peak as well, eggs have 1% carbs and weighs almost nothing.
Just pointing out that the peak is just how the body works.
The packet probably was rolled oats. The other main option is steel cut, which take longer to cook. When I used to eat steel cut oats for breakfast, I used a rice cooker with a timer so it would be ready when I woke up. On the weekend, I'd use milk instead of water since I had plenty of time to wait for it to cook instead of setting it up the night before, which made using milk a bit of a risk.
I think part of the problem is we don't really know what a healthy diet looks like. We can point to what is probably unhealthy: eating tons of sugar filled items is probably bad, eating a lot of fried food is at least questionable, but beyond that we really don't know. The research is either poorly done, impossible to do, or you can find studies that go both ways.
I mean a healthy diet is a variety of fruits and vegetables, with a decent supplement of whole grains and occasional lean meats and eggs. Minimally processed as much as possible - whole ingredients should be the majority of calories.
The details don’t matter so much, as long as you get a variety and generally stick to the above guidelines.
I think you can judge how healthy a diet is by how many people get diseases, malnutrition or premature death as a result of a diet, and almost nobody is going to suffer because of that diet plan above.
I agree, it’s a trick question because no food is healthy by itself, foods are only healthy as part of a whole. And as long as your foods usually fit with the basic standard advice, then you’re eating healthy foods.
If you have cheese as a large component of almost every meal, then you’re deviating a lot from the basic advice, so it’s not healthy. If you have a bit of cheese on your breakfast of eggs and toast a couple times per week, then it’s healthy.
What's your protein intake with that diet though? A person with 80kg needs around 120-160g of protein a day (depending on activity etc), that seems tricky if the source of your protein is non-animal based.
Does he need that much? I'm pretty sure 5-6 generations ago the most muscular and the strongest man in my region ate turnips and grains with the occasional meat. The only other big source of meat were beans and realistically people at the time didn't eat more then 50-70 grams a day of them.
Eating meat everyday is a very recent development. Why we suddenly need so much protein that we struggle to find it in a basic food that is more rich and varied then a few hundred years ago?
The current recommendation is in this region, yes. The bare minimum is 0.8g per kg. But that is survival mode.
I am generally not a huge fan of the historical line of thinking. 6 generations ago you died significantly earlier with not a great health along the way. It is a very recent development to live to (avg) 83. Would the strongest man in your region perform at a high level if he wasn't doing manual labour and died at 95?
even if im buying eggs from the most expensive farm here (a local bio/organic farm syndicate which delivers only the city here), i pay only 80 euro cents, and these are coming from a farm where you can literally select that one specific chicken to produce "your eggs".
where do you you live? this would be aronud 1,60EUR - this is not cheap but by far the highest quality you can buy across the whole conutry.
Porridge with prunes, pears and cinnamon in the winter.
Fresh fruit or high-protein granola with kefir, fruit and a tiny drizzle of honey in the Summer.
Sometimes it'll be very high on protein, but also on fats: bacon (back, UK-style), sausage and egg.
The key is to get away from ultra-processed food, and I'm Type 2 diabetic so I want to reduce the amount of sugar and carbs I have. For me, I normally feel fructose > lactose > carbs > sucrose > desxtrose, and often replace lactose (dairy) with non-dairy equivalents, or make sure it has some other benefit (like kefir).
I want to make sure I feel full through to lunchtime, so protein is useful. I don't mind some carbs, if it means I have something I enjoy and don't feel I need to snack mid-morning.
TLDR: I avoid breakfast cereals (other than some high-protein granolas), add fruits like prunes, pears, maybe banana, and I don't have bread or other ultra-processed foods.
mine is also simple, 6 eggs, sometimes with a toast on the size and tuna and some fruits. been eating that for 12 years or so (eggs dont cost much here).
My doctor's advice (which is also official government advice for high cholestorol) was two egg yellows max every week - that includes any foods that use egg yellows.
Egg whites you have more leeway and theoretically one could use 6 egg whites every day but that would include heavy exercise.
Yes, there are indications that for some reasons eggs are better for you, than their cholesterol level should indicate. But it’s nowhere near “proven”. And that that high cholesterol is fine, is not even there. Currently, it’s still better to avoid high cholesterol meals. All of them.
It only takes a couple of days for a habit to stop, too. It's real easy to go from "I am a person who does this thing every day" to "I last did it half a week ago and I dunno".
I happen to be taking a Team Lead course, and forming habits came up yesterday. 21 days weren't mentioned explicitly, the time frame was "a few weeks". We were given 6 criteria when forming a habit:
1. Tangible - you need to pick a tangible action that is observable. If you're trying to fix a part of your behavior you can't pick "I'll pay more attention" as a habit to correct yourself, instead you should write a note or say some phrase.
2. Up to me - don't form a habit that requires outside factors. If you want to start jogging, don't ask your neighbor to jog with you. Each time he's not available, you'll have an excuse not to jog.
3. Swallow the frog - don't push it off. This isn't a well defined criteria, the idea is to minimize excuses (like #2).
4. Daily - a habit needs to be formed by taking action every day.
5. Trigger - your action needs a trigger. This can be an internal (feeling hungry), external (a timer on your phone), or contextual (every morning, every time you walk into a conference room).
6. New - it's very hard to form a habit if you've already tried and failed. Pick an action that you haven't already tried.
There was also an important note that changing behavior often requires multiple steps. The instructor gave the example of using dental floss. It's hard to go from nothing to flossing every day, so break it into:
1. Every time you go into the bath room in the evening, pick up the dental floss, and put it down.
2. After picking up the floss becomes a habit, cut a piece of floss, and throw it out.
3. After cutting the floss becomes a habit, floss a few teeth.
If I'm counting the days to form a habit, I'm not really interested in forming that habit. That's just a means to an end for me. Maybe I'm waking up earlier to have more time for myself, or I'm developing a reading habit so I can finally finish reading Hegel.
In all these cases the habit is secondary. It's all discipline and pain.
But I think there is a better relationship to be had with habits. One that isn't unfairly tied to productivity. One that I can just enjoy the struggle until I form that routine, or I build up the familiarity or the skill to do something. That kind of attention changes something fundamental about my relationship with what I'm trying to internalize and make a part of myself. It's to learn to be constantly learning and improving without making it a burden or a chore.
What has been most reliable for me has been instead of going from bad habit A to good habit Z, I just replace A with the easiest alternative that is less bad than A.
Obviously, this means going from A to Z can take years instead of weeks. Though, from my own personal experience and from what I see of others, trying to go too quickly from A to Z just results in whiplash and irractic behavior--where I have seen it work is when there is an existential crisis demanding that the behavior change.
I suspect there're other factors to forming habits.
Forming a running habit is probably harder than say heroin.
I also recall from the "atomic habits" book, that you can chain habits together.
The idea was that if you already have a habit of getting out of bed in the morning, you could hydrate. Just say "as soon as I get out of bed, drink a glass of water" and it is easier to form the habit.
I lost about 60lbs last year because I was officially "obese" and I wanted to be a bit healthier.
While the exact time that I formed the healthier "habit" is harder to quantify, I definitely felt like the first three weeks were the hardest. It did feel, almost overnight, by the beginning of week four it was relatively easy to keep my calorie intake lower.
IMO, getting a habit might need a "click", a resolution.
I tried many times to get into exercise, but only got into a regular schedule (daily) recently. I don't even know what happened but there is definitely a click. The number of days is not so important. Something inside just told me to do it. Same with fasting. Somehow I got into 72-hour water fast with zero preparation and "habit" a few months ago and have been doing it once or twice a month.
How to get the click is more interesting. I wish I could generate those clicks for things I want to do but not dying to do.
Oh, that kind of habit. The good kind. It can take much less than 1 day to form a bad habit. I wonder how that asymmetry really is - were ancient humans less exposed to addictive substances and had no need to evolve a way to stop that? I have no idea what I'm talking about so, I'll end the comment here.
My theory is that we don't come from a history of plenty or safety, so, in a pre-historical sense, if something feels good that's supposed to be the signal to keep doing it because it is going to go away and you can't really get too much of it.
We were supposed to overeat because we wouldn't often get a chance. If we could be lazy and survive, then we should be lazy and preserve those calories because a time was going to come when we couldn't. It's the modern world that has all those natural predispositions screwed up. We can enjoy ourselves to excess in ways that we would never be able to in the wild, which then puts us in danger.
Maybe it's still a honeymoon thing for me but I've been trying out keto diet for few weeks and, anecdotally, now whenever I eat carbs I get a weird high. If you told me that people started farming to do it consistently, I'd believe you. Similarly, if I avoid carbs at all cost even for a day, by night I feel so bad that I must have some. Point is that as far as I can tell eating carbs is a habit/addiction as well, but much good has come from maintaining it.
I don't remember where I got this quote, but it makes sense to me: "Grains are a cheap caloric source that's allowed for the growth of tightly packed, heavily populated cities. Grains are good for civilizations. They are bad for individuals."
In Indian culture, people do a ritual for 40 days without trying to make a habit, and my reading is that habit forming is the purpose. Sometimes what you do it not directly related to your goal, let's say fasting or going to temple or whatever, but I guess 40 days of thinking about your new-routine-adjacent-goal makes you obsess about it and try to make it happen.
B.J. Fogg makes this point in his book Tiny Habits. And his point *is* that you can form a habit in much less than 21 days, let alone 66.
This whole question revolves around the effort/reward ratio of a behavior. When people talk about ~21 days, they're talking about doing a hard thing until it's second nature and seems easy.
But there are other ways to make something seem easy, and there is another component in the ratio: reward. That is, even if effort stays the same, you can wire a habit by making the behavior more rewarding. (This is why people are able to get addicted to a substance after one dose -- because they can't forget the state they entered ... and it was so easy to get there.)
So the takeaway here is the you can wire habits by decreasing the amount of effort to do something that you think is good for you -- eg if you want to hydrate more, place a glass near the sink so you drink water when you get out of bed in the morning -- *and* by increasing the reward. The whole trick is getting the ratio right.
Cliche Silicon Valley example. I did an ice plunge, and it gave me a day long plunger's high. I didn't need to plunge for 21 days to get the habit. I started doing it 3 times a week after that, because I knew what I had to do to feel good.
This actually gets to something Huberman calls "duration-path-outcome". Getting clarity on what you have to do (path); how long it will take (duration); and what the payoff is (outcome), can do wonders for motivation. Confusion kills action (and for that matter, all deals, since habits are just deals we make with ourselves). If you can get clarity, reduce the effort, and increase the amount of reward and your confidence in it, I think you can get to new habits really quickly.
I do feel the need to point out this model is far from universal.
For instance, I'm bipolar and my brain does not do effort/reward or duration. It also forgets, ignores, or refuses things no matter how much motivation I have.
I've had to find different strategies that do not rely on executive function. For example, buying a car that had a push button to start instead of a key.
Thank you for saying this. I feel like your car hack comes down on the effort side of the equation (and I admire the hack!), and I also want to say that I respect what you're saying about memory and motivation. I'm struggling with my own limits and digging into this for those reasons...
It took me 3 days to fully drop sugar from coffee, at 17 I think. Never liked sweets and pastry, though, but dropping every sugar drink took me more, a couple weeks, specially Nestea.
Edit: took me 1 day to drop the remaining sugar, and plants in general.
Yep. I started reading the zerocarb subreddit more than a decade ago. And decided to try carnivore (with a few plant foods) August, 2022. So far, so good.
Same here, I learned to not have sugar with coffee since sugar was always running out in my previous work. Not drinking coffee is not an option, so I have no choice.
And today coffee with sugar is so disgusting to me, it feels like my throat gets all sticky all of a sudden.
When I shifted to Bangalore and in March 2023, I faced water shortage (found out later it was a issue in the water supply pipes) I signed up to gym practically immediately, and used to go all days back then, just to have a bath. Hit the treadmill for 30-40 mins or lift for an hour,then have a bath. Used to gym earlier in 2022 but never got that to be a habit, but the habit stacking thing worked really well. Now that the water issues are largely sorted, I still go to the gym practically 4-5 days a week.
So that habit of gymming literally zero days. Just visited the gym, checked out the washrooms, found it acceptable, and signed up immediately.
You're probably thinking of the formal definition of a "bath", as in sitting in a tub of water. Over here in India, bathing and taking a shower mean the same thing.
After a lot of decades I learned the amount of time it takes to make a sea-change in character is about 10 years - providing externalities don't overly sabotage the process.
And change¹ isn't really what we do; we cover bad with good.
We surface counterproductive drivers.
We counter them by layering new thinking/behaviors over old.
Each layer is it's own project and most don't stick for a while.
None of it is doable in 21 days, not the smallest bit.
One thing about habits is that you need to make room for them. And this can mean literal room or in a metaphorical sense. If you want to eat healthy for example consider that eating healthy literally starts before you eat, when you buy groceries. If you always go shopping for groceries when you're hungry, you're not gonna buy healthy stuff, and if you don't little healthy stuff at home you won't eat healthy.
As a person who has learned a few dozen keyboard layouts, the timelines described here check out with my experience. 21 days is kind of the baseline to get to a barely acceptable typing speed, and then there’s a slow long slog as you get more and more comfortable day by day. Depending on how much you practice, it could take between 2-8 months to _really_ get comfortable with a layout.
The 21-day rule always felt a little too neat for something as messy and personal as behavior change. I’ve found that giving myself grace when I miss a day has actually helped me stick with things way longer than any rigid deadline ever did.
Trying to overcome human nature will make the process long, but aligning with it will make it fast. Good habits and bad habits are only relative—more often than not, bad habits align with human nature, while good habits are the opposite.
Exactly. I realized alcohol was something that caused me to act in ways that got in the way of my life goals (nothing crazy, just things like I sleep worse after alcohol, I feel worse after alcohol, and I forwent activities I wanted to do).
After that realization I stopped drinking and have never felt like it again.
Answer: it depends. When failure to be habitual about something has significant financial cost or causes physical pain, adoption will often be nearly instantaneous.
Define "tough." Politicians and top tier academics, for example, are often very ruthless people, bred among wealth and generational security. They've never worked a 12h shift in a mine, but if you want to observe utterly pitiless mentalities or people that take being "judgmental" to levels you may have never suspected might exist, spend time among them. If they'll have you.
>"If you’re trying a new diet, attempting to quit smoking or changing any daily routine, don’t expect new habits to be created in a week, or two or even three. Research suggests that the process requires 66 days (on average) and up to 8 months."
Something about the title suggested it was going to be much less than 21 days; maybe it's the domain name biasing my reading of the title.
I agree that the title implies (or even declares) that it takes fewer than 21 days. I'd argue that the articles says that it does take those 21 days, plus many more, making the title deceptive.
Effort is usually quoted as a minimum ("It takes 20 minutes to drive there" "It costs $100 to buy this") which leads to a strange quirk that the negative is then interpreted as being a lower minimum, rather than a higher one ("It does not take 20min to drive there, "it does not cost $100 to buy this")
There's a tendency sometimes to leave certain words implicit. "It does not [even] take 21 days to form a habit." Some of those linguistic habits never leave their birthplace, giving you colloquialisms like "do you want to come with [us]" in the Midwest. Most don't have any regional association though, and sentences with dropped fragments sound perfectly normal, with your mind filling in the gaps.
In this case, the sentence is correct (though ambiguous) as written, but it has the same words you often see from a longer phrase with an omitted word implied through tone and other vocal cues, a pattern used commonly enough that I'd wager most people interpret it the same as you.
Yeah same here. I think it's because (most of the time) headlines are optimized for sentiment. I would have expected a title like "It takes more than 21 days..." to indicate it takes more
But it doesn't necessarily take more than 21 days. According to the linked article, the average modeled time to plateau was 66 days, but the range was from 18 to 254 days.
I envy the neurotypicals who can just form habits, 21 days or otherwise.
People are neurotypical rarely if ever understand what those with ADHD go through. The best description I've heard is that people with ADHD don't have habits: we have trauma.
The meaning of that is that neurotypicals have the capacity to simply go into a rom and do something. It almost passively happens. ADHD people do not. Even getting up in the morning involves 50 questions being mentally asked and answered. Do I need to take something to the bathroom? Did I run the dishwasher? Did I leave the heating on? Do I need to do laundry today? And I'm 5 seconds into my day.
A brain that seeks novelty quickly gets bored with reptition. The only way you form habits is by the trauma of the consequences of not having that habit.
Funny, intentional routine / habit-formation has been the most effective way to help manage my ADHD. Sorry to hear that it's been impossible for you. For anyone else reading this, I would still recommend paying attention to your routine and seeing if you can help yourself by making adjustments.
> It almost passively happens. ADHD people do not.
I don't find this to be true for me or many other ADHD friends.
It took me a few days to become a smoker, and a few weeks to get to the point of not wanting to smoke again (some decades later).
It took me a week or so to start having a healthier breakfast and it become part of my routine, and I've been trying to have healthier lunches for years now (and still regularly fail, normally because at lunchtimes I'm tired, stressed and yearning for comfort foods like sandwiches and snack bars).
I think anyone who believed exactly 21 days was the magic number for all habits, for all people, was grossly naive.
But what I do find is that after 21 days it's no longer novel, it's just what you do, if somebody asks you what you do about X, you no longer say "I'm trying this new thing around X, and...", you tell them your new habit. Identifying that habit as part of who you are is key to it being sticky. For some people, and for some habits, that might be true after a week, or it might take a year, but it's an important step, and if you want that habit to stick you should get to it as fast as you can.
Jan 1, 2024, I made a resolution to change my diet (basically small, very simple meals with one cheat meal a week). I'd probably made a dozen such resolutions before without much success, but for some reason this one stuck right away. I never even had trouble sticking with it, and lost a pound a week over the next 10 months. Then I met my girlfriend and we went out to eat a lot, and that broke the habit. It seems like big life changes can reset habits.
I wish I knew how I did it, because I've been unable to regain that same "this is just what I do now and it's fine" level of acceptance that seemed to be the key.
> I wish I knew how I did it, because I've been unable to regain that same "this is just what I do now and it's fine" level of acceptance that seemed to be the key.
Sometimes it’s as simple as “doesn’t hurt enough yet”
My grandpa was a liter of wine per day (or more) kinda guy. Then he hit his 70’s and it didn’t feel good anymore. So he stopped and hasn’t had a glass of alcohol since. Just doesn’t feel like it. Even when others drink around him.
Actually making decisions is pretty great. I quit a really heavy nicotine addiction by simply deciding I wasn't going to use nicotine anymore.
There are different kinds of dependencies; the human brain needs nicotine to function properly, more than you get from modern food. Not recommending tobacco, nor big pharma crap, there are supplements.
Yeah, it's weird. I'm actually a much nicer person on nicotine than I ever was before I got addicted. It makes it really hard to quit, because even after a few weeks, while I don't feel miserable anymore, I do miss the person I was on nicotine.
Quitting gets better. After months or years you’ll reach a point where your usual method of ingestion becomes repulsive instead of tempting.
Not comparable depending on how you deliver it, but this is how I head a couple alcoholists describe it when they stop drinking. They miss the feeling and constantly feel that their new self is not worth as much (because of X).
Yeah, you can supplement GABA and get most of the same feeling. Alcohol does some nice things for the brain.
There's always vaping! Nicotine goodness without the combustion byproducts.
In a very simplistic way:
- Smoking brings cancer and damages lungs.
- Vaping damages lungs (more research needed on other possible conditions).
- Nicotine pouches damage teeth.
I suppose the healthiest way of ingesting nicotine would be nicotine pills, which exist to help people quit smoking (and which is why they are very expensive).
People that I have seen substitute with vaping seem to get more addicted to that.
Interesting! Do you have some studies or references at hand for this?
Never heard of "human brain needs nicotine" before...
Maybe what he’s referring to is the effects nicotine has on people with ADHD and ASD. It’s sort of a self-medication.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8741955/
There’s more you can find, too. Really interesting stuff. Unfortunate that nicotine is both incredibly harmful and incredibly addictive.
Nicotine itself isn't really harmful, though.
It is, unfortunately. Over time it leads to cardiovascular damage.
I forget what book it was, it might have been the happiness trap, but a big point they made was that building new habits and changing your life has a lot more to do with your inner notion of identity and long-run values. It's much easier to change your habits when they align with who you believe you are, The mental model difference between "I'm trying to eat healthier," and "I am a healthy eater."
> a few weeks to get to the point of not wanting to smoke again
That's a shockingly short amount of time for smoking. For me, after a few weeks I'd say some of the worst cravings had passed. But for a good year or two afterwards they'd occasionally come back, albeit briefly. I quit about 15 years ago, but given the right situation I can still feel it.
I had this a little.
I didn't actively fight it. What I did instead was note in my own head that I somehow wanted a cigarette and think to myself "OK, if I still want one in 20 minutes, I'll have one", and then went and did something else instead. An hour or two later I'd think "Oh yeah, that was weird, didn't I want a cigarette a while back?"
Very occasionally it comes back - a sunny day and a beer garden with a few pints and a pack of cigs feels like something I'd very much enjoy, for example - but it's brief and I can quickly rationalise it: "how strange a thought, for a non-smoker".
>but it's brief and I can quickly rationalise it: "how strange a thought, for a non-smoker".
i really love how you pose that. thank you for sharing, i'm going to come back to this post for inspiration. i personally get a lot of mileage out of the "lets see if i still care about this in 20 minutes" strategy for other things like food or a screen-related impulse.
But then again, 21 days might be an optimistic number solely for the purpose of getting people started. Now we should do a study of how many people, armed with this belief, still managed to keep their habit after 21 days.
> Now we should do a study of how many people, armed with this belief, still managed to keep their habit after 21 days.
Or perhaps better still, how many people didn't give up during the first or second week, since they now expect it to take 3 weeks.
(And similarly, whether there's a statistically significant number of people who give up ay 22+delta days now assuming they'd made it to 21 days and if the habit isn't formed then they've failed.)
> Identifying that habit as part of who you are is key to it being sticky.
This has always been key to me. I've succeeded to identify myself as a runner, as someone who speaks French, as someone who reads books. But my identification as someone who has meaningful programming side-project, who has a garden and so on is to weak to succeed.
I never liked running. But my trick was to start a run-streak, https://runeveryday.com/.
And there are certain thresholds from the article that I can identify with. 21 days to a month as the main hurdle to pass obviously.
But then some place around 6 months, where you realize that it is impossible that this day, today, is the day I will end my streak.
All these past days just keeps pushing me on like a steamroller that picked up pace.
I've found that habits tied to emotion (like seeking comfort or relief) are always the hardest to rewire. It's not about willpower, it's about replacing the feeling you're chasing with something that actually works long-term.
What is your healthier breakfast? I never really learned what is considered a healthy breakfast.
> I never really learned what is considered a healthy breakfast.
one of the big problems in the standard american diet is that we treat breakfast like a dessert.
1. cereal has around 15-30 grams of sugar in addition to various artificial flavors and additives.
2. pancakes and waffles? an irresponsible carb bomb that you douse in syrup and whipped cream.
3. breakfast sausage is basicly low quality meat mixed with fat. at least by itself its not high in sugar but then people normally have it with pancakes.
4. granola? na, more sugar.
Reality is that almost all "breakfast foods" are junk.
my advice is to steak to black coffee and a slice of fish or steak for most people. I like to have black coffee and sardines. seems to keep my mood stable througout the day.
Mine is a bowl of old fashion oats, frozen mixed fruit (I like a blueberry/blackberry mix), and maybe some non-fat plain greek yogurt and/or a glass a of plain soy milk.
Alternatively, a couple of scrambled eggs with a piece of toast and a bananna is fairly healthy.
A fried egg on an English muffin also isn't a terrible way to start the day.
Target ~400 cals, Try and get some protein and fiber in there. Watch out for saturated fats and high sodium (see the DASH diet for tips). If you are diabetic or risk diabetes, check out the glycemic index and shoot for low GI foods.
That'd be my advice (I'm not a doctor, what I'm suggesting could be 1000% wrong.)
I used a CGM recently. I tried breakfast as oatmeal with blueberries and mixed in with peanut butter. It spikes my blood sugar outside the "normal range". I treat oatmeal as once a week treat to avoid food boredom.
The oatmeal was a "big bowl" variety from a packet. I heard rolled oats might be better but it's a hassle to cook.
Most days breakfast is scrambled eggs (3 eggs), spinach, cheese. Sometimes I add tuna or avocado for variety. That keeps things stable.
Yeah that tracks. In the mornings your body is still in sleep mode so carb intake will take longer to be absorbed. If you have diabetes you need more insulin and a longer time for it to have affect. So for sure eating slow release carbs will help with the peak. Eating fats like cheese/avocado/oil will dampen the peak as well, eggs have 1% carbs and weighs almost nothing.
Just pointing out that the peak is just how the body works.
The packet probably was rolled oats. The other main option is steel cut, which take longer to cook. When I used to eat steel cut oats for breakfast, I used a rice cooker with a timer so it would be ready when I woke up. On the weekend, I'd use milk instead of water since I had plenty of time to wait for it to cook instead of setting it up the night before, which made using milk a bit of a risk.
It's not as nice as cooking it properly, but you can cook rolled oats in the microwave in a couple of minutes.
If you lower the power and cook for longer or ends up being pretty much the same.
For my 1000W microwave I reduce power to 30% and cook for 12 minutes. Comes out perfect with little difference between stovetop.
Instant oats without additives exist. Just pure rolled oats that have been previously steamed in the factory.
Steel cut oats are much better than rolled oats for blood sugar control.
Preparing them "overnight oats" style eliminates the hassle of extra cook time.
This is pretty good, though I'd probably adjust the carbs down a bit and go for full-fat greek yogurt. Don't need to avoid all saturated fats.
I think part of the problem is we don't really know what a healthy diet looks like. We can point to what is probably unhealthy: eating tons of sugar filled items is probably bad, eating a lot of fried food is at least questionable, but beyond that we really don't know. The research is either poorly done, impossible to do, or you can find studies that go both ways.
Pretty sure the verdict is in - natural foods over processed.
That's not very useful. There are many healthy processed foods. It's better if we actually define what types of processing are unhealthy.
I mean a healthy diet is a variety of fruits and vegetables, with a decent supplement of whole grains and occasional lean meats and eggs. Minimally processed as much as possible - whole ingredients should be the majority of calories.
The details don’t matter so much, as long as you get a variety and generally stick to the above guidelines.
I think you can judge how healthy a diet is by how many people get diseases, malnutrition or premature death as a result of a diet, and almost nobody is going to suffer because of that diet plan above.
This seems like good and standard advice does not seem to be controversial at all. I think the question is which practical foods are healthy.
I agree, it’s a trick question because no food is healthy by itself, foods are only healthy as part of a whole. And as long as your foods usually fit with the basic standard advice, then you’re eating healthy foods.
If you have cheese as a large component of almost every meal, then you’re deviating a lot from the basic advice, so it’s not healthy. If you have a bit of cheese on your breakfast of eggs and toast a couple times per week, then it’s healthy.
What's your protein intake with that diet though? A person with 80kg needs around 120-160g of protein a day (depending on activity etc), that seems tricky if the source of your protein is non-animal based.
Does he need that much? I'm pretty sure 5-6 generations ago the most muscular and the strongest man in my region ate turnips and grains with the occasional meat. The only other big source of meat were beans and realistically people at the time didn't eat more then 50-70 grams a day of them. Eating meat everyday is a very recent development. Why we suddenly need so much protein that we struggle to find it in a basic food that is more rich and varied then a few hundred years ago?
The current recommendation is in this region, yes. The bare minimum is 0.8g per kg. But that is survival mode.
I am generally not a huge fan of the historical line of thinking. 6 generations ago you died significantly earlier with not a great health along the way. It is a very recent development to live to (avg) 83. Would the strongest man in your region perform at a high level if he wasn't doing manual labour and died at 95?
A boiled egg or two with a tiny drizzle of soy sauce and a banana.
Small bowl of rice, a piece of grilled fish and a simple soup.
This is similar to the Japanese breakfast. Took me a bit to get used to, and lucky I really like the food in general.
Avacado, beans, peanut/nut butter, or hummus on toast made with whole wheat bread.
Steel cut overnight oats
Cottage cheese with fruit
Leftovers from the night before
One cup of black coffee, two eggs, and a piece of fruit.
2 eggs, you must be rich with the egg shortage nowadays.
I get thirty eggs for about eight euro
even if im buying eggs from the most expensive farm here (a local bio/organic farm syndicate which delivers only the city here), i pay only 80 euro cents, and these are coming from a farm where you can literally select that one specific chicken to produce "your eggs".
where do you you live? this would be aronud 1,60EUR - this is not cheap but by far the highest quality you can buy across the whole conutry.
12 free range eggs cost ~3USD where I live. They also don't need to be refrigerated.
that’s about $22.90
Eggs are literally 40cents each. So that’s $292/yr in breakfast, which is reasonable.
Porridge with prunes, pears and cinnamon in the winter.
Fresh fruit or high-protein granola with kefir, fruit and a tiny drizzle of honey in the Summer.
Sometimes it'll be very high on protein, but also on fats: bacon (back, UK-style), sausage and egg.
The key is to get away from ultra-processed food, and I'm Type 2 diabetic so I want to reduce the amount of sugar and carbs I have. For me, I normally feel fructose > lactose > carbs > sucrose > desxtrose, and often replace lactose (dairy) with non-dairy equivalents, or make sure it has some other benefit (like kefir).
I want to make sure I feel full through to lunchtime, so protein is useful. I don't mind some carbs, if it means I have something I enjoy and don't feel I need to snack mid-morning.
TLDR: I avoid breakfast cereals (other than some high-protein granolas), add fruits like prunes, pears, maybe banana, and I don't have bread or other ultra-processed foods.
mine is also simple, 6 eggs, sometimes with a toast on the size and tuna and some fruits. been eating that for 12 years or so (eggs dont cost much here).
6 eggs at breakfast every day?
My doctor's advice (which is also official government advice for high cholestorol) was two egg yellows max every week - that includes any foods that use egg yellows.
Egg whites you have more leeway and theoretically one could use 6 egg whites every day but that would include heavy exercise.
Isn't the high cholesterol thing proven false?
Yes, there are indications that for some reasons eggs are better for you, than their cholesterol level should indicate. But it’s nowhere near “proven”. And that that high cholesterol is fine, is not even there. Currently, it’s still better to avoid high cholesterol meals. All of them.
did many tests throughout the years, never had issues with cholestorol.
It only takes a couple of days for a habit to stop, too. It's real easy to go from "I am a person who does this thing every day" to "I last did it half a week ago and I dunno".
(Addictions are a different story of course.)
ADHD: I can form a new habit in two or so days, but I can also lose a habit I've been doing for years within a very short time.
I happen to be taking a Team Lead course, and forming habits came up yesterday. 21 days weren't mentioned explicitly, the time frame was "a few weeks". We were given 6 criteria when forming a habit:
1. Tangible - you need to pick a tangible action that is observable. If you're trying to fix a part of your behavior you can't pick "I'll pay more attention" as a habit to correct yourself, instead you should write a note or say some phrase.
2. Up to me - don't form a habit that requires outside factors. If you want to start jogging, don't ask your neighbor to jog with you. Each time he's not available, you'll have an excuse not to jog.
3. Swallow the frog - don't push it off. This isn't a well defined criteria, the idea is to minimize excuses (like #2).
4. Daily - a habit needs to be formed by taking action every day.
5. Trigger - your action needs a trigger. This can be an internal (feeling hungry), external (a timer on your phone), or contextual (every morning, every time you walk into a conference room).
6. New - it's very hard to form a habit if you've already tried and failed. Pick an action that you haven't already tried.
There was also an important note that changing behavior often requires multiple steps. The instructor gave the example of using dental floss. It's hard to go from nothing to flossing every day, so break it into:
1. Every time you go into the bath room in the evening, pick up the dental floss, and put it down.
2. After picking up the floss becomes a habit, cut a piece of floss, and throw it out.
3. After cutting the floss becomes a habit, floss a few teeth.
And so on.
If I'm counting the days to form a habit, I'm not really interested in forming that habit. That's just a means to an end for me. Maybe I'm waking up earlier to have more time for myself, or I'm developing a reading habit so I can finally finish reading Hegel.
In all these cases the habit is secondary. It's all discipline and pain.
But I think there is a better relationship to be had with habits. One that isn't unfairly tied to productivity. One that I can just enjoy the struggle until I form that routine, or I build up the familiarity or the skill to do something. That kind of attention changes something fundamental about my relationship with what I'm trying to internalize and make a part of myself. It's to learn to be constantly learning and improving without making it a burden or a chore.
What has been most reliable for me has been instead of going from bad habit A to good habit Z, I just replace A with the easiest alternative that is less bad than A.
Obviously, this means going from A to Z can take years instead of weeks. Though, from my own personal experience and from what I see of others, trying to go too quickly from A to Z just results in whiplash and irractic behavior--where I have seen it work is when there is an existential crisis demanding that the behavior change.
I suspect there're other factors to forming habits.
Forming a running habit is probably harder than say heroin.
I also recall from the "atomic habits" book, that you can chain habits together.
The idea was that if you already have a habit of getting out of bed in the morning, you could hydrate. Just say "as soon as I get out of bed, drink a glass of water" and it is easier to form the habit.
I lost about 60lbs last year because I was officially "obese" and I wanted to be a bit healthier.
While the exact time that I formed the healthier "habit" is harder to quantify, I definitely felt like the first three weeks were the hardest. It did feel, almost overnight, by the beginning of week four it was relatively easy to keep my calorie intake lower.
IMO, getting a habit might need a "click", a resolution.
I tried many times to get into exercise, but only got into a regular schedule (daily) recently. I don't even know what happened but there is definitely a click. The number of days is not so important. Something inside just told me to do it. Same with fasting. Somehow I got into 72-hour water fast with zero preparation and "habit" a few months ago and have been doing it once or twice a month.
How to get the click is more interesting. I wish I could generate those clicks for things I want to do but not dying to do.
Oh, that kind of habit. The good kind. It can take much less than 1 day to form a bad habit. I wonder how that asymmetry really is - were ancient humans less exposed to addictive substances and had no need to evolve a way to stop that? I have no idea what I'm talking about so, I'll end the comment here.
My theory is that we don't come from a history of plenty or safety, so, in a pre-historical sense, if something feels good that's supposed to be the signal to keep doing it because it is going to go away and you can't really get too much of it.
We were supposed to overeat because we wouldn't often get a chance. If we could be lazy and survive, then we should be lazy and preserve those calories because a time was going to come when we couldn't. It's the modern world that has all those natural predispositions screwed up. We can enjoy ourselves to excess in ways that we would never be able to in the wild, which then puts us in danger.
Maybe it's still a honeymoon thing for me but I've been trying out keto diet for few weeks and, anecdotally, now whenever I eat carbs I get a weird high. If you told me that people started farming to do it consistently, I'd believe you. Similarly, if I avoid carbs at all cost even for a day, by night I feel so bad that I must have some. Point is that as far as I can tell eating carbs is a habit/addiction as well, but much good has come from maintaining it.
I don't remember where I got this quote, but it makes sense to me: "Grains are a cheap caloric source that's allowed for the growth of tightly packed, heavily populated cities. Grains are good for civilizations. They are bad for individuals."
Yep, carbs built civilizations and bulging waistlines.
Sapiens?
Speaking of highs, it's a lot easier to make booze if you have agriculture.
For me, a habit is pretty well implanted into my life after 3 months, but only after 3 years do I feel insured that it will stick for life.
In Indian culture, people do a ritual for 40 days without trying to make a habit, and my reading is that habit forming is the purpose. Sometimes what you do it not directly related to your goal, let's say fasting or going to temple or whatever, but I guess 40 days of thinking about your new-routine-adjacent-goal makes you obsess about it and try to make it happen.
So twice what is being discussed here.
It is same in Islamic culture/literature. Either one affected another or both stem from same origin.
B.J. Fogg makes this point in his book Tiny Habits. And his point *is* that you can form a habit in much less than 21 days, let alone 66.
This whole question revolves around the effort/reward ratio of a behavior. When people talk about ~21 days, they're talking about doing a hard thing until it's second nature and seems easy.
But there are other ways to make something seem easy, and there is another component in the ratio: reward. That is, even if effort stays the same, you can wire a habit by making the behavior more rewarding. (This is why people are able to get addicted to a substance after one dose -- because they can't forget the state they entered ... and it was so easy to get there.)
So the takeaway here is the you can wire habits by decreasing the amount of effort to do something that you think is good for you -- eg if you want to hydrate more, place a glass near the sink so you drink water when you get out of bed in the morning -- *and* by increasing the reward. The whole trick is getting the ratio right.
Cliche Silicon Valley example. I did an ice plunge, and it gave me a day long plunger's high. I didn't need to plunge for 21 days to get the habit. I started doing it 3 times a week after that, because I knew what I had to do to feel good.
This actually gets to something Huberman calls "duration-path-outcome". Getting clarity on what you have to do (path); how long it will take (duration); and what the payoff is (outcome), can do wonders for motivation. Confusion kills action (and for that matter, all deals, since habits are just deals we make with ourselves). If you can get clarity, reduce the effort, and increase the amount of reward and your confidence in it, I think you can get to new habits really quickly.
Fwiw, I wrote a little bit about forming habits here: https://vonnik.substack.com/p/state-changes-work-and-presenc...
I do feel the need to point out this model is far from universal.
For instance, I'm bipolar and my brain does not do effort/reward or duration. It also forgets, ignores, or refuses things no matter how much motivation I have.
I've had to find different strategies that do not rely on executive function. For example, buying a car that had a push button to start instead of a key.
Thank you for saying this. I feel like your car hack comes down on the effort side of the equation (and I admire the hack!), and I also want to say that I respect what you're saying about memory and motivation. I'm struggling with my own limits and digging into this for those reasons...
It took me 3 days to fully drop sugar from coffee, at 17 I think. Never liked sweets and pastry, though, but dropping every sugar drink took me more, a couple weeks, specially Nestea.
Edit: took me 1 day to drop the remaining sugar, and plants in general.
You don’t eat plants? That’s interesting, could you share more?
No sugar and no plants means something like keto/carnivore diets.
Yep. I started reading the zerocarb subreddit more than a decade ago. And decided to try carnivore (with a few plant foods) August, 2022. So far, so good.
Same here, I learned to not have sugar with coffee since sugar was always running out in my previous work. Not drinking coffee is not an option, so I have no choice.
And today coffee with sugar is so disgusting to me, it feels like my throat gets all sticky all of a sudden.
Exactly, if feels like someone poured a bunch of seetener into it.
N=96, only followed for 84 days ... has his been replicated? How do they make claims beyond 84 days?
When I shifted to Bangalore and in March 2023, I faced water shortage (found out later it was a issue in the water supply pipes) I signed up to gym practically immediately, and used to go all days back then, just to have a bath. Hit the treadmill for 30-40 mins or lift for an hour,then have a bath. Used to gym earlier in 2022 but never got that to be a habit, but the habit stacking thing worked really well. Now that the water issues are largely sorted, I still go to the gym practically 4-5 days a week.
So that habit of gymming literally zero days. Just visited the gym, checked out the washrooms, found it acceptable, and signed up immediately.
The gym had baths?
You're probably thinking of the formal definition of a "bath", as in sitting in a tub of water. Over here in India, bathing and taking a shower mean the same thing.
Formal definition would be shower rooms.
After a lot of decades I learned the amount of time it takes to make a sea-change in character is about 10 years - providing externalities don't overly sabotage the process.
And change¹ isn't really what we do; we cover bad with good.
None of it is doable in 21 days, not the smallest bit.One thing about habits is that you need to make room for them. And this can mean literal room or in a metaphorical sense. If you want to eat healthy for example consider that eating healthy literally starts before you eat, when you buy groceries. If you always go shopping for groceries when you're hungry, you're not gonna buy healthy stuff, and if you don't little healthy stuff at home you won't eat healthy.
As a person who has learned a few dozen keyboard layouts, the timelines described here check out with my experience. 21 days is kind of the baseline to get to a barely acceptable typing speed, and then there’s a slow long slog as you get more and more comfortable day by day. Depending on how much you practice, it could take between 2-8 months to _really_ get comfortable with a layout.
The 21-day rule always felt a little too neat for something as messy and personal as behavior change. I’ve found that giving myself grace when I miss a day has actually helped me stick with things way longer than any rigid deadline ever did.
Trying to overcome human nature will make the process long, but aligning with it will make it fast. Good habits and bad habits are only relative—more often than not, bad habits align with human nature, while good habits are the opposite.
I think a good litmus test for a lot of behaviors is: "is this behavior serving me, or am I serving it?"
Exactly. I realized alcohol was something that caused me to act in ways that got in the way of my life goals (nothing crazy, just things like I sleep worse after alcohol, I feel worse after alcohol, and I forwent activities I wanted to do).
After that realization I stopped drinking and have never felt like it again.
Yes, I agree with you.
Regardless of that specific question, I found the book a great read.
It also has a Wikipedia article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psycho-Cybernetics
Can you share what you learnt from it? I found it a bit woo woo but would love to change my opinion / reread it.
Answer: it depends. When failure to be habitual about something has significant financial cost or causes physical pain, adoption will often be nearly instantaneous.
I always wondered about the possible negative effects of having a comfortable life.
The parental love by default dictates us to create a good life for our children, which may result in too much comfort.
Do tough times indeed create stronger people? If so, how could that be incorporated into the gentleness of the modern pedagogy?
Define "tough." Politicians and top tier academics, for example, are often very ruthless people, bred among wealth and generational security. They've never worked a 12h shift in a mine, but if you want to observe utterly pitiless mentalities or people that take being "judgmental" to levels you may have never suspected might exist, spend time among them. If they'll have you.
I've always heard 90 days.
However, as the article says, it really depends on what habit we are trying to establish.
In the book The Invisible Game by Zoltan Andrejkovics it says 100 repetitions in esports.
Maybe a placebo, but having this 21 days target did help me start habits in .. about 3 weeks.
it takes maybe 21 minutes to form a tiktok habit
>"If you’re trying a new diet, attempting to quit smoking or changing any daily routine, don’t expect new habits to be created in a week, or two or even three. Research suggests that the process requires 66 days (on average) and up to 8 months."
Something about the title suggested it was going to be much less than 21 days; maybe it's the domain name biasing my reading of the title.
I agree that the title implies (or even declares) that it takes fewer than 21 days. I'd argue that the articles says that it does take those 21 days, plus many more, making the title deceptive.
Exactly, English semantics dictate that if it takes more than 21 days it must first take 21 days.
There is a very clearly implied only in the title. I agree that it should be included but it is unnecessary to convey the meaning imo.
There is not. I too assumed it must mean it takes less, otherwise there would be an "only", or "It takes more than".
I wonder what bias I have that made me read the title and assume "Huh, must be way longer" then?
I assumed it would take longer than 21 Days based on the title alone.
How I understood it, “form” here means that a habit has been formed.
As in: “Habits aren’t formed in 21 days“, just like “Rome wasn’t built in one day”.
Effort is usually quoted as a minimum ("It takes 20 minutes to drive there" "It costs $100 to buy this") which leads to a strange quirk that the negative is then interpreted as being a lower minimum, rather than a higher one ("It does not take 20min to drive there, "it does not cost $100 to buy this")
Your examples make me wonder if the language of marketing has changed our assumptions about implied meanings where otherwise we'd recognize ambiguity.
Or perhaps, marketing aside, it is just human nature to conjure implicit meaning rather than be confronted with ambiguity.
There's a tendency sometimes to leave certain words implicit. "It does not [even] take 21 days to form a habit." Some of those linguistic habits never leave their birthplace, giving you colloquialisms like "do you want to come with [us]" in the Midwest. Most don't have any regional association though, and sentences with dropped fragments sound perfectly normal, with your mind filling in the gaps.
In this case, the sentence is correct (though ambiguous) as written, but it has the same words you often see from a longer phrase with an omitted word implied through tone and other vocal cues, a pattern used commonly enough that I'd wager most people interpret it the same as you.
"Do you want to come with" is a Midwest colloquialism?? Wow I say it all the time. Very weird to find out.
It has Germanic roots too. Are any of the people you were close to growing up from the Midwest or from sort of Germanic or Scandinavian background?
I associate it with the movie Clueless / "Valley Girl" speak.
Yeah same here. I think it's because (most of the time) headlines are optimized for sentiment. I would have expected a title like "It takes more than 21 days..." to indicate it takes more
But it doesn't necessarily take more than 21 days. According to the linked article, the average modeled time to plateau was 66 days, but the range was from 18 to 254 days.
I had the same reaction. I think I'm just used to seeing headlines oversell their point.
Glad it wasn't just me.
I have to think the research shows tighter distributions for some forms of habit?
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Trying to define any underlying logic would be to misunderstand what a habit is.
I envy the neurotypicals who can just form habits, 21 days or otherwise.
People are neurotypical rarely if ever understand what those with ADHD go through. The best description I've heard is that people with ADHD don't have habits: we have trauma.
The meaning of that is that neurotypicals have the capacity to simply go into a rom and do something. It almost passively happens. ADHD people do not. Even getting up in the morning involves 50 questions being mentally asked and answered. Do I need to take something to the bathroom? Did I run the dishwasher? Did I leave the heating on? Do I need to do laundry today? And I'm 5 seconds into my day.
A brain that seeks novelty quickly gets bored with reptition. The only way you form habits is by the trauma of the consequences of not having that habit.
Funny, intentional routine / habit-formation has been the most effective way to help manage my ADHD. Sorry to hear that it's been impossible for you. For anyone else reading this, I would still recommend paying attention to your routine and seeing if you can help yourself by making adjustments.
> It almost passively happens. ADHD people do not.
I don't find this to be true for me or many other ADHD friends.